1. [parent]: “When you are done with your spelling, you may play with your Xbox”.
[kid]: “OK.” Thirty seconds later the Xbox goes on. Parent discovers this two hours later.
2. [parent]: “When this cartoon is over, go and pick up your 100,000 Legos off the floor.
[kid]: “OK.” Three cartoons later Mom is mega-pissed as she steps on yet another Lego.
3. [parent]: “Go clean your room.”
[kid]: “OK.” Three weeks later a particularly bad smell is emanating from Junior’s room.
So let’s analyze this for a second. The parent gives child an instruction. Parent unrealistically thinks the kid is going to do what they are told without parental follow through. The stuff didn’t get done and a negative situation has arisen (again). Follow through is necessary for the successful completion of practically anything. If you give an instruction/command to someone and don’t see if they have done it, you are creating a lack of respect for you. To the kid or to the employee, you are in effect saying, “I’m telling you what to do, but it doesn’t matter if you listen to me.”
May I present the following steps:
1. Pay attention to what it is you are asking someone to do.
2. Anticipate that they will forget (or worse - disregard) your instructions.
3. Calmly make sure that you follow through to make certain the task is completed. This may mean you have to join the person in the requested task. Room cleaning or homework completion comes to mind.
4. Do it every single time. Stay focused.
5. If you do not follow through with requested tasks, you contributing to a lack of respect. Stay calm, follow through and teach respect. And don’t forget to love and appreciate your children.